Melissa's Hair Diary: Respect the process

I didn't realize I needed to get 'used to' having my hair out again. I can't lie, it's alot of work, especially now that it's gotten longer. I have a new regimen, which includes washing and deep conditioning my hair every weekend, new techniques, and new products to achieve my hair's best look. I'm not gonna lie, I like my hair now, more than I've ever liked it before.

My new signature, side-puff

I guess I need to thank you, the readers, for my recent appreciation of my hair.  Now, I have a business card that says I edit/write a site about Natural Hair. Now, people expect my hair to look a certain way. Before, I wasn't compelled to make sure it looks 'ok', expect that I might see readers who ask me "How I got my hair like that?", nor be compelled to keep up with my hair escapades.You hold me accountable to the process. And I hope this site helps you be accountable too.

After my big chop, other naturals told me to appreciate every stage of my hair; be patient with the process. Of course I didn't, I was disgusted about my hair. I spent too much time wondering why it didn't look like some other person's and not appreciating what God gave me.

Now I know what they meant. I kinda miss my TWA. I miss that I didn't appreciate the TWA season for what it was, a time of exploration. I just slapped a weave on my head and kept it moving. Now, I'm not saying I'm against weave or anything, but do what YOU need to do to cope or transition.

I want you to appreciate each moment of this new experience. Respect your hair. Tell yourself that it looks good, because it does. Listen to friends and family members who give positive feedback. Take lots of pictures so you can compare the growth of your hair. Doing this will really allow you to love, not dread, the experience. Respect the process.